Being a Biblical Patriarch: Loving and leading your family, by Brian Doyle

Masculinity has been in crisis for some time now. What used to be commonplace has become radical and what was radical is aggressively being normalized. Sadly, even some of the language of the Bible is now recognized by our culture as hate language. One Biblical idea that has taken quite a hit is the idea of a husband and father as a patriarch (defined in the dictionary as the male head of a family or a tribe). 

But in the face of growing opposition, as our team at the Iron Sharpens Iron Conference Network comes alongside church leaders across the nation, we believe it is vital to start by reinforcing God’s design that men are called to spiritual leadership. This leadership starts in the home and expands outward from there. It starts in the home because the most important relationships in a man’s life are in the home. This is what we mean by a patriarch.

In fact, a primary descriptive qualification for spiritual leadership in the church is spiritual leadership in the family. Look what Paul writes to his church planting protégé, Timothy, as he coaches him in the qualities necessary for those he is recruiting to be part of his church leadership team in Ephesus:

“He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect. If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church? –1 Timothy 3:4-5

He writes something very similar to Titus as he mentors him in pulling together his new team of leaders at the growing church in Crete. Paul likely considered it impossible for a man to be an effective spiritual leader outside the home if he is not first an effective spiritual leader inside the home. Paul seems to believe that the church and community will greatly benefit from “patriarchs” who are the spiritual leaders of their family.

The authority that God has given to husbands and fathers and that is also necessary for any leaders to do their work has often been abused. But God does not simply call men to be "patriarchs." He calls us to be a particular kind of patriarch. What are some of the most important qualities of a godly patriarch? Below is a short start-up list.

Imagine a local church filled with men who are godly patriarchs! Let us join with Joshua in declaring "As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord" by recovering what it means to be a Biblical patriarch as we learn how to shepherd our family tribe. As you review the list, I hope you catch the vision for local churches.

The List…

He doesn't simply lead; he shows how and who to follow

A godly patriarch is not an independent and isolated leader. He is first a follower. In this case a follower of the Lord Jesus Christ, and he calls the members of his family to this same pursuit.

"Follow me, as I follow Christ." 1 Corinthians 11:1

"As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord." Joshua 24:15)

Question to consider: "Who would your family say you are following? Where are you leading them?”

He loves sacrificially

A godly patriarch is not dictatorial but rather a loving servant who sacrificially puts the needs of his wife and family first.

"Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." 1 Corinthians 13:7

"Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her." Ephesians 5:25

Question to consider: "What can I do to love my wife and children sacrificially today?"

His voice is heard as affirming

A godly patriarch communicates time and again both verbally and nonverbally to each family member their identity, how he cares for them, and what he thinks about them.

"And a voice from heaven, 'This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased.'" Matthew 3:17

Question to consider: "How often do my wife and children hear me tell them, 'I love you'? What can I do to better articulate their strengths and gifts?"

He shepherds

A godly patriarch watches over those entrusted to his direct care. He does not delegate away this responsibility to "professionals" but rather embraces it. This personal ministry prepares him for the opportunity to watch over others.

"Be shepherds of God's flock that is under your care, watching over them—not because you must, but because you are willing, as God wants you to be." I Peter 5:2

Question to consider: "Who is shepherding my flock?"

He teaches and therefore he learns

A godly patriarch teaches the Scriptures to his family. He is as creative as he needs to be so that every member learns under his care what it means to follow the Lord.

"These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up." Deuteronomy 6:6-7

Question to consider: "Do I feel equipped to teach my family? If not, am I willing to simply invest time to read the Bible with my family so we can learn together?"

He prays

A godly patriarch intercedes and speaks to Almighty God for every family member. He is familiar with their needs and talks to God on their behalf. He walks by faith and trusts in the Lord.

"Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.” I Thessalonians 5:16-18

Question to consider: "When was the last time I prayed for each of my family members? What can I do to be praying more consistently?"

  

About the Author: Brian Doyle serves as Founder and President of Iron Sharpens Iron, a national conference network serving churches across the nation. His passion is to see the local church become effective in reaching and discipling men of all ages. Brian has served with The Navigators in New England in various capacities, as the New England Area Manager for Promise Keepers and as the Director of Men’s Ministries for Vision New England. He is a recent widower with five children and resides in Winter Springs, FL.

 

Waldheim Update - Unit 3443, by H G Pike

In late September, the staff of CSB Canada had the opportunity to visit the Brigade Unit in Waldheim, Saskatchewan. It was Waldheim's second meeting of the year and the Stockade was having a barbecue on the banks of the North Saskatchewan river.


After a beautiful sunny day, the skies filled with classic prairie thunderheads. There were 55 boys and about 30 men heading for a cookout, wide game, and campfire Story Circle. What would we do if it decided to rain?




The drive to the river was interesting. We left town on a paved, two-lane highway, then quickly turned onto a gravel road. Then we turned onto a farm road. That road became two worn tracks through the grass. The roadbed was good and soon we were leaving the fields to go down to a broad level area beside the river. 


Several cars and trucks were there ahead of us. The campfire was burning and the BBQ was fired up. Hotdogs and hamburgers were being cooked. The boys were busy exploring. The Chief Ranger, Greg Willems, realized that he had left something in his truck and made two steps towards it. "Nope," he said. "It will be pouring before I get back." He was right, so he gathered the boys and men under a large tarp. It poured.

It was time to organize the Stockade, so the Chief Ranger and the Brigade Coordinator, Scott Langelaar, read out the Post assignments. The boys could ask for a change, but as the guys crowded around their Post Rangers, everyone was pleased with the results. It was time to eat. We had our hotdogs and burgers, chips and pop. There was ice cream for dessert.



The rain stopped and the boys were called to assemble in the big field. The boys and their Rangers got to speak to each other. Then the Chief Ranger called, "Build the Stockade." 







The boys formed their Posts. With 55 boys, the corners of the "Stockade" were double-walled... and there were Posts between the corners. In quick order, the Stockade was ready. The Chief Ranger called for the "Stockade Sign", and then "Stockade Silence", and he led in prayer. Instructions were quickly given, and the boys were dismissed to the games.
  
A wide game was already laid-out for the evening. Lines had been spray-painted on the grass, safe-areas identified, jails established, and six stakes driven into both flag area. Teams were organized. Rules explained. The widegame began. 

There on the shores of the North Saskatchewan, the men and boys of Waldheim played Capture the Flag. The boys were pumped. Flags were stolen and recaptured. Prisoners were captured and long lines stretched from each prison to a willing saviour. Jailbreaks were common and swung the momentum of the game.
 

Three rounds were played. The leaders played with the boys and their presence made all the difference. They helped direct the charges. They captured flags. They captured prisoners. Sometimes, they found themselves captured, sparking their opponent's jailbreak. They are good examples of how to play.

It got dark. It was time for the marshmallows and hot chocolate. Roasting sticks were cut from the ample brush. Everyone was having a good time.

Steve Grove, the President of CSB Canada, was introduced and he sat down beside the fire. He paused as the boys gave him their attention. "I was born lame. And for as long as I can remember, I've been carried here to the Temple gate to beg from passersby." He spoke of the lame beggar who was healed in the Name of Jesus Christ by Peter and John. It was a good story and it captured the boys attention.

The evening closed, and the boys and men drove back to the church. It was surprisingly close by. It is their practice that, once the boys are picked up by their parents, the leaders gather for an extended Leaders' Huddle. Their Battalion leaders join them - they had 29 young men that evening - and they discuss how things went, their plans for the next week, their long-term goals, and their big events and special activities. They pray, seeking God's guidance for their Brigade. 

The Waldheim Brigade group is a joint effort by the men of Salem Church and Waldheim MB Church.

CSB - National Day of Prayer 2018

National Prayer Day for CSB Canada

Thursday March 1, 2018

 John 14:13 - Whatever you ask in my name, this I will do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. (ESV)

Thank you for joining us in praying for Christian Service Brigade in Canada.  

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added to our prayer partners for that date

The President's Connection

Christian Service Brigade Regional Directors have been attending MissionFests and Promise Keepers conferences across Canada in the past months. At the Vancouver and Winnipeg MissionFests, informal surveys revealed approximately 1/3 of all the ministries represented were manned by an alumni of Christian Service Brigade. What a testimony to the heritage and legacy of CSB in Canada! Brigade is still at work, building the godly men of tomorrow who will lead Canada’s churches, missions, and para-church ministries.

CSB has the tools churches need to build godly men of today and tomorrow. Our new booklet, Imagine helps pastors, youth pastors, lay leaders, and church members catch the vision of being a church with a mission to disciple the boys of today to become the godly leaders of tomorrow. Imagine your church equipped with a 15-year discipleship path for your boys and young men. Imagine your teenage guys graduating high school able to stand firm spiritually, ready to face the world with Jesus Christ as their leader, the Holy Spirit as their guide and the spiritual maturity to fulfill their calling in the Kingdom of God.

Your church needs a copy of this booklet. Your friend’s church needs the Imagine booklet that lays out a vision of the future while remaining grounded in today. For your free copy, send and email to: office.ca@christianservicebrigade.ca and we will make sure you have one in hand.

At Christmas, I told you the story of a Grandmother in Ontario who decided to become one of Gideon’s Men by supporting CSB Canada $30 a month for a year. She had seen first-hand how her grandson’s involvement with CSB had changed him for the better. You can join her and become one of Gideon’s Men. We need 300 donors willing to commit just $30/month for 1 year (or a one-time donation of $360).

As president of CSB, it has been my joy to connect with leaders and units across Canada. After a conversation with one Captain, I am currently writing the biblical section of a new Battalion Mission on Blacksmithing. I am talking with others about nominations for awarding the Honourary Herald of Christ to men of integrity who have been discipling the next generation of men for decades.

I also want to remind you that Tuesday February 28, 2017 is going to be National Day of Prayer for Christian Service Brigade across Canada. Will you set aside 15 Minutes to pray for the ministry that you are a vital part of ? If so could drop me a note telling us the time slot that you would be praying.

In addition, we are looking for prayer requests from people all across Canada for the ministry. They will be added to our Prayer Request List that will be sent only to those who indicate they will be praying for us. To protect your privacy where names are mentioned we will use only first names. Send your requests directly to our Vice President, Harold Browne at hbrowne@christianservicebrigade.ca.

Your partners in ministry,

Steve Grove